We all need to feel seen and be heard. We may not even realize it when until something happens that causes us to react.
Reactiveness is our go to when we feel depleted, defeated, and unworthy. It may be a defense mechanism or a way to protect our heart or ego. Reacting seems to provide immediate relief when instead it alienates us further.
I suggest instead, that when we recognize we are not feeling seen or heard we acknowledge that need. Once we can admit to it, we can communicate it and then go about attaining it. This can happen in many settings and situations. From families, to relationships, sports leagues to work teams. What varies is what we do about it. Do we use it as a springboard to better communicate our needs and feel seen or do we quiet down, pull back or retreat and cause ourselves greater discomfort and disconnection?
I invite you to notice if you are feeling invisible or unimportant. Then reflect on whether you’re expressing or stuffing these feelings. Practice letting them surface so they can be expressed. Then notice if doing so delivers the end results you were looking for. If not, pivot, revisit your needs and communication style and try again.
Being seen and heard is priceless. It helps shift us towards living lives and careers of our choosing. It therefore requires that we be
intentional about it and ask for support whenever needed.