Do you find that you do things for others before doing for yourself? Do you say yes to things that take time away from meaningful moments with your family? Have you felt frustrated about not doing things you’ve wanted to do?
If any of these resonate, it probably means you are not prioritizing yourself. Rather than putting your oxygen mask on first, you are caring or doing for those around you.
Stop. Then notice if you are doing or answering to the needs of others. Start practicing the self-compassionate use of “no” to what takes your attention or time away from your true priorities. This may mean actually identifying what those are. It may require you to push through some discomfort by being truly honest about your own needs.
Once you’ve defined what is truly significant and where you want to spend your time, you must align actions with desires. Only by doing so, can we fully move towards those goals and wants.
Today, pick one meaningful thing you’ve been wanting to do for yourself but haven’t. Then identify and eliminate one activity, favor or meeting you’ve committed to which will open you up to focus on what truly matters. Make this a regular practice and you’ll start to reach greater personal fulfillment.